Choosing the right mental health professional matters. In a world of influencers, coaches, self-styled trauma experts and unregulated “healing” methods, it can be difficult to know who is properly qualified to support psychological distress. This blog explains why qualifications, competence, evidence-based practice, professional registration and accountability are essential in psychological care

Self-harm is not a sign of weakness. It is often a sign that someone is trying to survive distress that feels unbearable. In my latest blog, I explore self-harm through a compassionate psychological lens: why it happens, how the nervous system is involved, why shame keeps the cycle going, how DBT can help, and why skilled support matters. As a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, I work with emotional dysregulation, trauma, shame, self-harm, suicidal distress, neurodivergence a

A compassionate, evidence-based guide to Borderline Personality Disorder, exploring emotional intensity, relationships, common misconceptions, and how therapy can support healing and change.

The window of tolerance is a psychological concept that most people have never heard of, but almost everyone has experienced. You might not know the term, but you will know the feeling. Learn about the window and how to regulate

Loneliness is one of those words that can sound a bit small and a bit sentimental, like it belongs in a poem rather than a psychology blog. But in the therapy room, loneliness is rarely “just a feeling”. It is often a whole-body state. It gets into everything. When you feel lonely, you do not just notice other people differently. You read them differently. A delayed reply can land like rejection. Loneliness can hurt physically.

More and more women are leaving relationships and choosing to stay single - is it because they hate men or have given up on love? or is it because they finally have a choice and want fairness

Burnout - far more than just stress - its your mind and body setting the boundaries that you haven't!

Going no contact with family is hard, made harder by many people not understanding that it is rarely impulsive, it come after years of trying to belong

Christmas is sold to us as the season of joy, magic and togetherness. A cosy blur of fairy lights, familiar songs, matching pyjamas and perfectly crisp roast potatoes. The message is that, for a few days of the year, everyone should feel warm, grateful and full of uncomplicated happiness. In my therapy room, that is not usually how people describe it.

Female hormones and human functioning - how they work and what happens when they dont

Synaptic Pruning, brains housekeeping. Do you know why we get 'baby brain' and cognitive fog later in life? Take a read about a fascinating brain process

Quick read on self awareness

Emotions and emotional regulation - relearning evolutionary body signals and learning to regulate

Depression - what do we mean when we say depressed, is it just sadness or do we not know the difference anymore

Sleep, the one thing we need to do and despite it being essential to our physical and mental well-being so many people fail to get enough

obsessive compulsive disorder - OCD - what is it and how is it treated and can we be 'a little bit OCD'?

Screen time - is all screen time equal? the good, the bad, the ugly and how to change your relationship with screens and people around you

Trauma - Big T, Little T, what happens in the mind, body and nervous system when we feel an experience is a threat that we have no control over

Let's Talk Mental Health: Or Have We Talked Too Much? sadness is now depression and worry and stress are now anxiety - are we pathologising being human

Online conflict - why do we row online, like we wouldn't in real life. How to understand it and strategies to manage it to stay psychologically well.